Most of us understand that at some point in your life you have that moment of complete silence where you realize…its time to grow up. Although most of the time we are isolated in our rooms and the realization is a product of our self-reflection. So what happens when you are not alone, your in a relationship?
Today we are going to talk about just that, learning to grow together. It can become a challenge for some going from being alone and independent to being in a relationship and having to go through personal changes with another person. It’s important to accept the fact that although we reach many milestones in life one thing that is forever accruing is…change. We are always changing in our personalities, interest, appearance, and outlook on life.
We will break this topic down in 3 separate points- reflection, communication, and understanding. The points will be the staple example of the most important skills you should develop in your relationship in order to ease the growing pains.
It is important to take time to self- reflect this still holds true in a relationship. The only difference is that you are not just reflecting on one person but both people, you’re reflecting together. Reflecting with each other is a skill that will help your relationship grow. When you all take the time to reflect some good questions to ask yourself are.
- How do we want to grow together?
- What do we need change (correct or develop) about ourselves in order to grow together?
- What do we need to do to grow together?
By asking these questions during reflection will allow each person to open their minds and really think about how they can grow together.
No one likes secrets. No one. Communication is the most important trait to have in any relationship, family, work, friends…and partnerships. When you reflect with each other you must tell your partner what it is that you want to change within yourself and in the relationship. Don’t hold any thoughts or ideas away from your partner. Be open and honest and let them know. Taking the time to take with each other will give each of you the opportunity to let it out on the table. Both people can go to the next step of making the necessary changes and feeling comfortable while doing it.
You want your partner to know what is going on so they may have the understanding of any changes in moods or attitudes. Lets keep it real… we are all good people but not everyone is comfortable with change. Our attitudes can change from good to bad in a split second if we have a lot on our minds and are under the heavy thoughts of making changes. So it is important to take heed to what your partner says in communicating with you and being mindful of it when you notice a change in their mood. Be nurturing and understanding not harsh and judgmental. Always remind yourself that, this is your partner and with change comes a few challenges but in the end the growth will be beneficial for the both of you.
Growth is all around us we see it in the simplest things. It is very easy to forget that no matter what our number age is we are never too old to grow and to learn something new with our partners. Learning to grow alone is one task but when you take the consideration of growing with another person, just how great your relationship can become is endless.
We hope that this topic has reached and helped you all today.
We want to hear from you, what are some traits that you have found to be very helpful when learning how to grow with your partner? Which skills worked and which skills were a bad idea?
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Until next time, live alive and LOVE one another.
Cookie & Crumb